Last Updated on September 16, 2022
The question is: How has my dishonesty contributed to my resentments? Describe or explain. Do you feel a sense of resentment when you try to explain yourself? The answer is a resounding “Yes!”
People react negatively to deception when it is prosocial. They view deception as an infringement on autonomy and may even believe the liar’s intentions are bad. But some people may welcome deception if it brings them monetary or personal benefit. However, deception does not reduce resentments. People tend to prefer honesty and avoid lying. The truth is more satisfying and less painful for them.
Generally, lies stem from fear, shame, or a desire to avoid pain or awkwardness. This fear motivates individuals to lie to avoid a situation that would otherwise require a confrontation or punishment. Although they may be trying to avoid embarrassment or a negative consequence, these lies only serve to create barriers between people. In other words, lying may increase resentments in relationships and negatively impact one’s self-esteem.
Dishonesty can lead to resentments because of its social and economic consequences. A single individual can cause a resentment by committing a multitude of small transgressions over the course of a lifetime. For example, an average Joe is responsible for $994 billion in losses every year due to occupational fraud and $16 billion in losses to the US retail industry.
Dishonesty in relationships may be detrimental to both individuals and groups. Even small acts of dishonesty cloud our ability to read others’ emotions in future interactions. The consequences of dishonesty extend beyond the hurt we feel. In one study, people who lie to each other were less likely to feel empathic. Moreover, even the best-intentioned lies can generate strong resentment.
Typically, people lie to hide harmful behaviors. This behavior stems from their feelings of guilt. They seek social acceptance by making up stories to avoid awkwardness. The partner they lie to may feel hurt if they reveal the truth. Therefore, forgiveness of a dishonesty-prone partner is more likely if forgiveness is allowed. Forgiveness can be an essential component of healing and improving relationships.
In addition to guilt, people may lie for monetary gain. While these acts are harmful to both parties, they serve as motivation for dishonest behavior. People who lie for material gain are rewarded with greater financial benefits, and they risk fewer terminations. The consequences of dishonesty become social currency. Moreover, they are often socially contagious. Moreover, people who observe dishonest members will be less likely to lie in the future.
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